Can you believe it’s September? This summer went by super fast for me. How about you?
Right as everything might be getting more hectic
Is a great time to take a breath and learn to bend a spoon. I know it might seem pretty frivolous at first glance but if you look a little deeper you’ll see why I suggest it.
When I’m teaching how to bend a spoon there’s a whole lot of other teaching and demonstrating going on. What you are learning about and experiencing as you work with your spoon is how to find your own groove, your own zone of possibilities. It’s a place or rather a state of mind where what would normally seem difficult, even impossible can be approached with a light heart and accomplished with ease.
So think about it. Is there anything in your daily life, tasks, job, household that just feels hard?
Stuff you feel exhausted by, things you even dread having to do?
One of the things you are practicing when you attempt spoon bending is to drop the emotional baggage, the patterns, belief and the story of how it’s too hard, your too tired, there’s not enough time, etc.
To bend a spoon you step into the moment without story.
You step in with intention, focus, attention and a desire while not holding onto or holding out for a specific outcome.The result? You bend the spoon.
So say you’re late for work and traffic is thick and you’re getting upset and maybe annoyed with yourself and/or those around you. That kind of state is what helps hold that vibe and bring it with you into the next moment and the next and the next.
The spoonbender state says, “Here I am in traffic, I don’t know how this is going to go. I wonder if it’s possible to get to work on time? I wonder if I can get clear of this traffic? I’d like to be moving along and flowing easily toward my destination. At least, I can let go of the story that it’s bad or wrong or something.
Can you feel yourself relax a little bit with a different inner dialogue?
We are energy, everything around us is energy. And all energy vibrates at various frequencies.
As we vibrate and hum at a certain frequency the world around us vibrates in response to match our what we are sending out.
So, it’s really no surprise that the more you create a relaxed, comfortable state of being for yourself it encourages the environment around you to match and relax too.
Those kinds of changes can be hard to track. Even if you notice a sudden clearing around you – it can be hard to believe there was a correlation.
That’s where the spoon bending experience comes in. You can track that. You can correlate your state of mind with the state of the spoon. You can feel a shift in yourself at the same time you are able to shift the spoon.
See what I mean? That’s why I teach people to bend spoons – because you already can and do bend all sorts of stuff in life but you don’t necessarily know it and don’t really take charge of it. Bending by default.
So what if you took this spoon bending / mind bending example to heart and start to pay closer attention to what you are saying to yourself through the day. About yourself, about the people around you, about life? What if you changed your tune to a different vibration and then watched to see what happened next?
What if you started doing this and seeing changes? And because you saw it and felt it yourself bending your spoon – you can know and trust that
what you are noticing “out there” really does have something to do with what you’ve got going on “in here”
I hope you’ll join me for the next live webinar this Wednesday evening 7pm PST.
If you can’t make it live there will be a replay available.
It’s pretty cool to be there live together though so do come if you can.
If you found what I’ve written here valuable, inspiring, useful I would really appreciate you sharing it with others.
Happy to be here and now,
I’ll be glad to see you later.
I loved doing this webinar. I’m only sorry that the other attendees didn’t show up on screen in the recorded version, so you can’t see Donya’s bent knife or Ruth’s bent spoon. I love the conversations we had throughout. You can see Ruth’s spoon and more in my fb group SpoonBenders Cafe. I hope you’ll join the group for great discussions, photos, fb live events and make some new friends.
I have struggled with deep depression for most of my life.
I always felt I had a mission and I always felt I was falling short.
I judged myself mercilessly. I was never enough. Going to bed at night meant facing the flaws and faults I hadn’t been able to erase or overcome in the day.
Waking up in the morning, before I even got out of bed I was already exhausted just from last night’s list and the thought of the struggle of the coming day?
When life feels like some endless set of trials and tests, standards and measurements that are out of reach it is depressing, and can make you wonder what is the point. I often wondered why would I want to stay. I often didn’t have a good answer.
This was true for me for many years. Even as a seven year old I felt I wasn’t good enough, strong enough, didn’t fit with others and didn’t measure up for myself
It took many years of counseling, personal growth, anti-depressants and love to keep my head above those murky waters. I managed. Still there was something crucial missing. I didn’t really trust myself, I didn’t really like myself.
With years of therapy I figured I “knew” myself right? Not exactly.
Without liking and trusting myself – first – what I “knew” to be true about myself was that I wasn’t okay as is. I was always training and straining with programs and protocols and trainings in order to wrestle and subdue my unruly, emotional, sensitive, imperfect self into someone I judged to be acceptable. I “knew” I had to figure out once and for all how to stop being so stubborn and unmanageable and fit myself into one of the available, acceptable boxes or slots- in life, in work, in love. There is no self-respect in that and it didn’t work very well. I continued to be unruly, dissatisfied and rebellious but I didn’t like myself any better for it.
A pivotal moment in turning this around was listening to an interview with Veronica Torres channelling Eloheim – a being of love and light with lots of wisdom, insight to share. They offered many useful tools but what really caught my attention was when they explained they have ONE RULE for us humans: Don’t be mean to yourself.
I took this as a personal directive and this required looking at myself in a different, gentler way. It required self-acceptance.
As I gave up trying to squeeze and fit myself into a certain pre-determined shape in the world I was able to see how the world and I fit naturally together. I saw my Self as one puzzle piece in the vast ever-changing picture and I began to understand that in order to be the necessary part of the bigger picture I had to be me. And from that perspective I could see, nothing is wrong.
I continued to soften toward myself, appreciate my authentic self and express my truth with others. More and more I was seen and recognized by people who got me, who understood and had similar journeys of their own to tell. Some people found courage to in my willingness to risk and I had a new found respect for my own journey and the piece of the puzzle that I am.
And one day I reflected on how far I have come with all of that and here’s what came through to be shared.
The empowering truth as told to myself, by myself:
You are not broken, you are not wrong, you are not a misfit – there is no “fit” to fit into – there is only you being the very you’est of you.
You did not come here to get fixed – you are not broken.
You did not come here, again, to be punished for screwing up the last go round.
You did not come here to be challenged and given lessons until you learn enough to finally get out of here.
You came here to BE here. You came here to be You. Be Here As You Are Now
If you would like to work with me and get training and support for you journey find out more HERE
Einstein said the most important thing is to decide whether this universe is benevolent or hostile.
That goes for the world “out there” as well as my inner world.
I’ve tried the hostile version. It was tight and uncomfortable , existence felt harsh and unforgiving.
Now I live in the benevolent universe where I treat myself with kindness, appreciation and respect. I view my life as an adventure best experienced in the present moment met with wonder and curiosity and neutrality. I am a chooser in how I experience what life flows to and through me.
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We create and shape the world in and around us with our thoughts and beliefs and the vibes we send out. Each of us has our own unique awareness, wisdom and experience to share with the world. My goal in this workshop is to give you an experience of how powerful you really are.
In order to live the truth and strength of who we really are I believe we need to step into truly loving and accepting ourselves. My mission is to help you do that with ease and grace and humor.
I hope you’ll join me this Sunday for this free eye-opening and heart-expanding introductory workshop.
This spoon bending webinar went a little deeper than the previous training. I started off talking with folks who had previously bent spoons. There is a walk through of the process and lots of discussion about how and why and a surprising accomplishment at the end!